THE LONELY EMPTY BED

We women do not get over our loves easily. It sometimes takes years. Even if we are not deeply in love, we still have difficulty moving on. Some of us forgive and think we are free from the pain, but we are not. We may date or even have a short affair but the one we loved remains in our heart sometimes for an endless amount of time.

What gets me is how different we are from men! Yes, of course, they might feel sad over a break up, yet they have absolutely no trouble finding some one new immediately and putting their passion into the next one. It kills me that we are so different, Unquestionably there are women who can just brush it off, but for the most part we tender ones with big hearts hold the ex near and dear.

I found myself getting together with an old girlfriend of his. It was quite healing to hear some of the same stories, same patterns, even though the relationship was different. I learned allot hearing the similarities and reasons why it did not work out for either of us. It is a good thing to be friends with an ex girlfriend. As a matter of fact, I just thought of something. What about getting the ex's name from your potential lover upon meeting him, not to used until needed. When a crisis hits in the relationship, we can just dial that number and start talking. I am sure it would be helpful to the ex as well; almost like a safe deposit box, hidden away. We would learn from her and what she went through, after all it is the same man.

I could not help but notice the lonely empty bed once filled with love and passion in her apartment that was once theirs. It is not any different from mine, but seeing some one else' s loneliness saddened me.

Of course this chapter has been written countless times and we do heal and we do move on and usually it is for someone or something better. But if only we could make that day come faster.